It's your life, not a movie!

We have probably all been horrified by the U-Tube video of the cheerleader beating. I saw an interview with an expert who said that this is a problem that psychologists are seeing more and more. People are disconnected with reality. It's not that they are mentally ill; it's just that they see themselves as actors in some movie, not as real people in their own lives. This ties back to one of the key principles of Emotional Intelligence (EQ): consequential thinking. Consequential thinking is the critical ability to understand what you are feeling and what actions you are about to take and then analyze the likely results and outcomes you will get from those actions. In general, you can see this lack of consequential thinking in many areas of our society: the CEO who steals or misdirects the use of funds; the out-of-control driver who endangers the lives of others; hockey parents who get into fights in the stands; students who plot to kill their teachers. These, of course, are easy to spot. What about the less obvious? What about the person walking down the street, listening to their I-Pod (or texting on their phone), who walks out into an intersection without first looking both ways? What about the driver who is talking on their cellphone, changing the DVD for their kid, and fiddling with the GPS device? And even more basic, what about the person who, time and time and time again, just can't help themselves when they get frustrated or when they get angry and yet is surprised to find that people don't like working with them? Our actions have consequences -- and very real ones at that. This isn't some movie that we get to stumble through and then rewind and return if we don't like it. What are some examples of the absence of consequential thinking that you've seen in your life/business? What about some examples of the presence of consequential thinking that are admirable and inspiring?