We, including most top achievers, tend to motivate ourselves by withholding praise until we achieve our objectives. We erroneously believe that this is inspiring, or we fear that if we are not critical of ourselves, we will grow complacent and regress. But the issue is that we are hindering our performance. On the other side, we are goal-oriented and skilled at sacrificing the immediate for the future. This is why we may set objectives and attain them despite the difficulty of the work. Nonetheless, it forces us to postpone our joy; our happiness becomes a hostage of someday, which does not materialize on our calendars.
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