UnYielded: Thriving No Matter What – Blog

The UnYielded Blog is dedicated to bringing hope, knowledge and assurance that people can be more successful and more fulfilled if they choose. It’s what I’ve done for the past 20+ years in my career, it’s who I strive to be in my personal life and it’s what I believe I was called to do.

Posts fall into these major themes:

Awareness – own accurate awareness of who we are and who we want to become

Habits and Practices – how we put our values into action

Just Start – finding the courage to risk failure, make a mistake, or push a comfort zone

Mindsets – what we believe to be true and to be possible about ourselves and others

New Paths – seeking new paths; responding at a crossroads; resilience when a challenge forces us off our current path

Overcoming Obstacles and Challenges – often great teachers, they also reveal a better version of ourselves.

You at Your Core – Knowing who we are, absent the shoulds that creep up on us and limit our potential. Coaching – Learning how to learn and how to help others learn

We are not the sum of our mistakes
Why are we so quick to set aside a proven track record of “good” behavior, and instead trust the aberration of a single misstep? Can anyone survive such a tightrope? Today I share an insight that I’ve learned in having coached more than 3000 people regarding this destructive phenomenon.
Stop Telling Your Brain That You Are Stressed
A couple of months ago, I was talking to Rick about something with my dad. Dad’s getting a little older, and, of course, I want to make sure that he’s as healthy as he can be. I caught myself saying the following: “I’m really stressed about dad.” And then I stopped myself and I thought. Wait a minute. Is that true? “I’m really stressed about dad.” And then I stopped myself and I thought. Wait a minute. Is that true?
Mental fitness for sales pros
I recently joined Tom Stanfill and Tab Norris to discuss mental fitness and its importance for all of us, especially[…]
What a Fight in the Target Parking lot Revealed About Mental Fitness
It turned into a nasty scene. It was completely unnecessary. And, it happened out of the blue. Rick and I were getting ready to back out of our parking space at a Target. That’s when we heard the commotion directly behind us. I quickly turned to see what was going on.
The Funny Thing about Luck
During a summer road trip back in 2001, Rick and I were towing a camper through Idaho, on a narrow, winding road. There was a loud pop from the rear passenger side. A blown tire on the camper! At almost the precise moment that we heard the pop – and felt the camper start to sway — a wide and long turnout appeared on our side of the road.
Thoughts are not Facts
I was recently on a flight to Orlando for a client. My first in-person workshop in more than 2 years. I wasn’t thrilled with my flight selection as I was getting in at 5:55 p.m. and that’s a bit later than I prefer. When I travel for work, I like to arrive early enough to get a workout in, grab dinner and relax and then get to bed early so that I’m rested and energized in the morning.
What is Good and What is Bad?
My 89-year old father LOVES going for drives with me. This is a picture of our favorite lunch spot: the Kankakee River that we both grew up on. We watch the geese and the gulls, and he tells me stories of his boyhood adventures on this water. As we drive home, he often falls asleep. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? Maybe It depends on our framing. 
Is Savoring a Happiness Skill?
How much of your day is filled with “tasks to be completed?” I recently realized how much that orientation had crept into my life. We are vacationing in Arkansas and one of the houses that we are renting is really decorated in a lovely way. The master bedroom, in particular, is a retreat. On Saturday morning, I was making the bed and – for some reason –
Are You Holding Your Happiness Hostage?
It was a painful moment when I realized that I was living with my life on hold. Did I mean for it to happen? Of course not. Was I aware of it? No. Until I had an experience that brought it to the light of day. I was booked to be a guest on a podcast and it’s what I would call a stretch interview: not completely in my wheelhouse yet but a direction I am moving in.
Car Trouble or Opportunity?
In April and May this year, we took a 3 week road trip to visit family and during our trip, our car started making noises that became increasingly louder until I literally thought the car was going to collapse on the road. We made it to my sister Kathy’s house in Illinois and she noticed the noise (as, I’m sure all of her neighbors did because it was LOUD).
You CAN beat the clock!
I have come to realize that I have a serious problem with time. I’m always racing against it. I’m trying to go fast enough that I can “beat it.” Whatever that means. Rick and I were traveling on a 2-day road trip and we were going to stop for coffee. It was a little place that only had a drive thru. There were 4 cars in line and our immediate thought was: “We don’t have time.”
The Power of Happiness Is in Your Hands
Do you ever wonder what leads some people to be happier than others? Happiness researchers have and their findings might surprise you. Is it that some people are just naturally happier than others? While everyone does have a happiness set point, what researchers have found is that our happiness set point accounts for only 50% of our happiness.

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