UnYielded: Thriving No Matter What – Blog

The UnYielded Blog is dedicated to bringing hope, knowledge and assurance that people can be more successful and more fulfilled if they choose. It’s what I’ve done for the past 20+ years in my career, it’s who I strive to be in my personal life and it’s what I believe I was called to do.

Posts fall into these major themes:

Awareness – own accurate awareness of who we are and who we want to become

Habits and Practices – how we put our values into action

Just Start – finding the courage to risk failure, make a mistake, or push a comfort zone

Mindsets – what we believe to be true and to be possible about ourselves and others

New Paths – seeking new paths; responding at a crossroads; resilience when a challenge forces us off our current path

Overcoming Obstacles and Challenges – often great teachers, they also reveal a better version of ourselves.

You at Your Core – Knowing who we are, absent the shoulds that creep up on us and limit our potential. Coaching – Learning how to learn and how to help others learn

Pause to Build Personal Power
Emotions are a part of who we are. Nothing we do is without an emotional component. If we understand our emotions and the information they provide, we can develop the most effective strategies for any situation. On the other hand, this is what we can call emotional intelligence. My guest for today fosters and encourages others to pursue personal empowerment and a more serene and purposeful existence. She enhances personal authenticity by revealing fundamental values and developing social and emotional intelligence. As she values adult and adolescent emotional management, she has committed herself to increase social and emotional learning awareness. Paige Dest, an emotional intelligence coach and founder of BYODestiny, joins us today to educate us to better understand and regulate our emotions to make more informed life and career decisions.
The Tetris Effect and Your Unhappiness
What we train our brains to see, we see more of. That’s the essence of the Tetris effect. In the legendary Tetris game, we’re supposed to look for patterns in order to win the game. Similarly, in life, if we unconsciously train our brains to scan for negativity, we’ll notice more of it, making us miserable. In today’s episode, Bobbi dives into how the Tetris effect can occur in our lives and how we can train our brains to be happier.
The Power of a Personal Manifesto
Nothing will change if you go to the gym and sit next to the weight bench without lifting a single weight. Your biceps will not grow stronger if you do not lift the weight. Also, they do not become stronger the first time they lift the weight. Over time, the experience of doing so makes them stronger and becomes increasingly simple. Mindst is also a muscle that we must strengthen to maintain our mental fitness. My guest today is Heather Hakes. She is a speaker, a mindset coach, and the author of Take the Leap. Her podcast, Mind Over Matter, has tens of thousands of listeners. Heather focuses on assisting others in overcoming obstacles by waking their limitless capacity to create their dream life. Throughout today’s conversation, she demonstrates how to use our mental strength to propel us forward with insightful explanations.
Do You Have the Courage to Live True to Yourself?
Each individual is bold, fearless, and audacious enough to live their life on their terms. Therefore, take action if you have the nagging suspicion that you are not living a life true to yourself. Now is not the time to wait for the right moment. The time has come because you deserve to live your life according to your terms. The task will not be easy. At times, you may lose friends or alienate those supposed to adore you. However, it is well worth the effort once you see through it and make your way through it. This is your journey. Have the courage to live true to yourself.
X-ray Vision on Self-Sabotage
Being empowered by the unpleasant experiences he had in his childhood, my guest today helps hundreds of others to uncover and overcome self-sabotage. He assists them by using proven ways to quiet their inner critics and give voice to their wise selves. Self-sabotage damages our success despite our objectives, dreams, or principles. Most of the time, we may not even recognize that our negative habits continually undercut our efforts all the time. That is why it is vital to gain the X-ray Vision of Self-Sabotage. Yannick Picard, High-Performance Coach, Mindset and Confidence Coach joins today’s episode to share his insightful thoughts to lead us to find & overcome critical obstacles that are holding us back from living a satisfying and happy life.
Bobbi Kahler
Are You Seeking True Happiness or Negative Happiness?
Most of us are compromising our current satisfaction to get more in the future. Honestly, nothing is wrong with this. It allows us to attain our goals and live our lives the way we want to live them. However, this is where we get into difficulty. That happiness is the relief we feel when we hit or achieve our aim. As we confuse relief for happiness, we seek the next happiness by attaining the next accomplishment. When that joy fades quickly, we believe we need another greater goal. The race is then restarted. When we don’t recognize that we are mistaking relief for happiness, we lose sight of what’s going on. Precisely, it is what keeps us stymied. Also, when that joy vanishes completely, we think, “Well, I’m not pleased!”
Sometimes Unlearning Makes the Difference
Some of the things we learn and habits we form throughout our lives can hold us back rather than helping us grow. In that case, it isn’t what you learn but what you unlearn that makes the difference. My guest today is an amazing person that went through lots of unlearning throughout his life. Michael Gagnon, Senior Enterprise Manager, Remote Support Sales at GoTo, joins us today to share his story and how we can improve our lives by unlearning some of the habits & practices that have been in our lives for a very long time.
Judgment: Are Your Spirals Upward or Downward?
Most of the time, events do not unfold as predicted, as uncertainty is an inescapable fact of life. Additionally, being humans, we are capable of making errors. However, it is vital that we acknowledge our mistakes. So that we may work in sage mode, truly tune into our internal wisdom, and learn from our experiences without berating ourselves or falling into a downward cycle of negativity.
Embrace the Fire
with the question “why.” Pursuing a meaningful life enables you to get clarity, stand out, and play greater. My guest for today’s episode seeks to build a world where most individuals have discovered their purpose. Through his work, he enables many others to become the finest versions of themselves through his efforts
How Are You Building Your Tribe?
Have you ever considered who makes up your tribe? Are you aware of the people on whom you can always rely? Such people provide some solace during difficult times. Having such persons in our lives is a rare gift. Without a doubt, we all have to be grateful for their presence.
From Prison to Calling
Life is full of unexpected twists and turns. Also, Life can be fraught with numerous drawbacks. However, regardless of what happens, the most critical aspect is rising again. My guest for today has a life story that is worth discussing. After developing an addiction to prescription opioids and serving nearly fourteen months in federal prison (2006–07) for a white-collar crime committed in 2001 while working as a lawyer, he began his reentry by earning a Master of Divinity in Social Ethics from New York City’s Union Theological Seminary. After graduating from divinity school, he was invited to serve as Associate Minister and Director of Prison Ministries at an inner city church in Bridgeport, Connecticut. He later co-founded Progressive Prison Ministries, Inc., the world’s first ministry solely dedicated to white-collar crime. Jeff Grant, Private General Counsel/White Collar Attorney at GrantLaw, joins today’s episode to share the insights he has learned on his journey from prison to calling.
Are “Shoulds” Stealing Your Joy?
Most of us have expectations of ourselves as well as of others. When such expectation is not satisfied, we are disappointed, making life more difficult. Also, the damaging effect of the word should is considerably more significant than it appears. On the other hand, that is why it is said that disappointment is an outcome of unrealistic expectations. Being constrained by the word should is almost certainly followed by annoyance, embarrassment, agitation, anxiety, and a sense of failure. 

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