As a leader, it's easy to think that we have to respond NOW to every email, text or phone call. This week's guest, Chris Theiling shares a great framing that allows him to be present with his family and it's this: "If I wait two hours to respond, two hours isn’t the end of the world.” He also shares other great insights for having both a successful career and a happy life.
Happiness and Success - Chris shares his take on the correlation between happiness and success and how one can achieve both. Family – Chris emphasizes the importance of being present with the family while discussing his relationship with his wife, children, and other family members. The Compulsion of Checking - Chris describes his experience with the desire to check his notifications and how he handled it well. A Prison - To prevent the sensation that the career has become a prison, Chris expresses his perspective on balancing personal and professional life. Micromanagement – We discuss the influence of micromanagement on success. Missteps – Chris shares some of the mistakes he has made that have kept him in unhappy situations. Piece of Advice – Chris encourages sales managers to figure out the most important things to them in ten years, outlining the importance of family time.
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I hope that you took a lot from that conversation. Here are my 3 insights for thriving:
- I loved it when Chris said, “I’m present when my family is present and I’m present when I’m at work.” That ONE thing is so important. When we aren’t present with either our family or our work, I think that leads us to constantly worry about what we are missing.
- It’s a great framing that Chris has that allows him to be present with his family, and that was the “2 hours isn’t the end of the world.” Too often, we fall into the trap of thinking that we have to respond NOW but it’s actually a bit rare that that urgency is really appropriate.
- I loved Chris’ idea of looking yourself in the mirror and thinking about looking at yourself in the mirror, 10, 20 or 30 years down the road, whatever your situation might look like for when you will retire and imagine asking your future self: You gave everything you had to your work and you gave nothing to yourself or to your family. How do you feel about that now?