Most of us are compromising our current satisfaction to get more in the future. Honestly, nothing is wrong with this. It allows us to attain our goals and live our lives the way we want to live them. However, this is where we get into difficulty. That happiness is the relief we feel when we hit or achieve our aim. As we confuse relief for happiness, we seek the next happiness by attaining the next accomplishment. When that joy fades quickly, we believe we need another greater goal. The race is then restarted. When we don’t recognize that we are mistaking relief for happiness, we lose sight of what’s going on. Precisely, it is what keeps us stymied. Also, when that joy vanishes completely, we think, “Well, I’m not pleased!”
Show Notes
Negative Happiness – After a splitting headache is mitigated or lessened, we get a joyful feeling of satisfaction. It feels good, but relief is not synonymous with happiness. Instead, it is a state of negative happiness.
Strategy One – The first strategy for overcoming negative happiness is to develop an appreciation for the process, not simply the outcome. Naturally, you have no control over the outcome. Hence, merely regulate the input by enjoying the procedure.
Strategy Two – Determine the activities that provide enjoyment in the present moment and not the future. Create a list and attach it to yourself. This strategy would be an excellent way to counterbalance your achievement orientation.
Potential Pitfall – We frequently believe something should be on our list when it is not a proper fit. Only you can determine what should be included on your list. So pick wisely.
