How frequently have you heard someone say, “I know I shouldn’t get angry”? There is considerable ambiguity regarding this phrase. We are primarily conflating the emotion of anger, which is a valid data point, with the manifestation of rage, for which we can get in trouble. In other words, It is acceptable to feel anger. What counts is what you do with it, where sometimes you may run into difficulties.
Anger – Anger is a perfectly valid and beneficial emotion. It indicates that we believe someone has violated a boundary, mistreated us, committed an injustice, or deceived us. When these things occur, it is appropriate to feel anger.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy – Anger is a statistic. It is healthy to talk with the person who has infringed upon us to fix the situation. What is not healthy is exploding or harboring rage. Typically, it gradually boils over at this point. As a result, we express our anger in the wrong and regrettable ways.
Next Time – When you experience anger in the future, view it as a data point and be curious about its cause. Sometimes the cause of the fury is pretty evident. However, sometimes, we experience anger for no apparent reason. Therefore, explore it and apply a lens, but not evaluate it. This is the first step you must take the next time.
Step 2 – After identifying the cause, the optimal course of action can be chosen. Nevertheless, if you decide to accept it, you choose to release your wrath. Also, You have neither confronted nor taken the anger if it remains.
Mentioned in the Episode
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships: goodreads.com/book/show/31312.The_Dance_of_Anger?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=nztarl8gts&rank=1